I’m Soooo Thankful to be a Woman…

I’m going to change it up a little bit with this one and take the time to express how thankful I am to be a woman.

Why This All of a Sudden Epiphany?

So if you’ve kept up with my blog at all, you could probably tell that I have been a little bit excited about the newest addition to our beautiful home, a POOOOOOOLLLL!!!

Sorry, I am still excited beyond words for this thing to be finished. (It’s coming along by the way, slowly but surely it is coming along.)

Anyways, we had to have a couple cedar trees removed from our backyard to make room for the pool and it has looked and sounded like a construction site in our backyard. Well I guess that would maybe be because it kind of is a construction site right now isn’t it Viva? Yeah, that sounded a little silly. Well moving along, I have been watching the workers while they have been going at it and I don’t know what it is, but watching them do so much hard work in the heat outside really make me so thankful that I am not a man. And of course there are probably a million things that us women have to go through that most men couldn’t even begin to dream of having to go through.

But being completely honest, besides our monthly “lady time”, I genuinely enjoy all of the things that men would hate going through. Things like doing my hair and make up in the morning to shopping and cooking, I just really love doing them.

I Think I’d Rather DIE Than to be a Man

No offense guys and I am really sorry that it has to be this way, but the things you do to make us ladies happy just seems like absolute misery to me. I could’t even begin to fathom having to do construction work outside in the middle of summer. I don’t know if men in blue collar manual jobs actually prefer doing that kind of work or if they just don’t know what else to do.

I am so thankful my wonderful husband doesn’t have to go through the rigorous work that these guys working on my pool and trees have to do. And I’m not saying he’s some kind of nerd either. He’s just always been the book type and prefers writing and using is head over his hands.

I know women aren’t really built to do this kind of work but I know a lot still do it and they seem to be happy with it. I found this article on the Huffington Post last night and was reading some first hand experiences from women working in construction. I couldn’t really relate to what I was reading and just cannot imagine having such a job.

Hey, I love what this picture represents and stands for but I am just not that kind of gal. I myself would much rather be flexing my arm with a hair straightener in it showing off a new hair cut.

But maybe that’s just me?

Well it’s Official…

Well my dear readers, it is official… WE ARE GETTING A POOL!!!!

It is time to bring out the champagne glasses and celebrate… I’m actually drinking one right now.

This Anticipation is Going to Kill Me…

I still can’t believe it and now I don’t think I’m going to be able to handle this wait, I think I’m going to go crazy. Last night after dinner we were on the couch watching TV and I casually brought up the idea. I asked him how serious he was about it and he said he would be as serious about it as I would be (sorry honey, I really don’t think that is possible). It took everything in me not to scream out in excitement, but I kept my cool and as calmly as possible told him how bad I really want one.

The only thing he was really concerned about was the safety of our little girl which I thought was so sweet. I think he got the hint of how badly I want this because I immediately told him about my research on this and showed him some of the fencing options that I found to ease his mind a little bit. His reaction was better than I anticipated because like me, he didn’t really like the looks of the ones I talked about in one of my older posts and wants to get a more permanent and way better looking one instead which I am all for. I didn’t think I would want to get a fence built around it but after talking to my husband about one I am all on board with it. Plus it would help keep those late night teenage skinny dippers out too, right?

Saying Good-Bye 🙁 to My Lawn…

So obviously there’s gonna have to be some real work done on our lawn and some things are going to have to be rearranged. I really am a little devastated because we have 2 beautiful cedar trees that are right where my husband wants to put the pool. We will unfortunately have to have them removed and they will be missed dearly. We’ve already been calling around to get estimates and actually have this company called Tree Service Fort Wayne coming out tomorrow to take a look and see how much it would cost and how soon they could do it. Yep, we’re already getting this whole process started and I AM SO EXCITED!!!

Other than those two trees we really don’t have to make any huge changes to our house or lawn to make our new pool work. We are also planning on putting it towards one side of the lawn more than the other so that we won’t have just a swimming pool for our lawn and I can still have room to do my garden and even plant a couple new cedar trees to replace the ones we are losing.

My Life Has Been a Fairy Tail Lately…

I honestly don’t know what else I would, or even could ask for in my life right now. I have a loving and absolutely perfect husband that goes above and beyond to support his family, a beautiful little girl, and an amazing group of friends that would do anything for each other. I really don’t know how I got so lucky…

I Think We’re Gonna Do It!


How did I get so lucky?? I don’t know what I ever did to deserve such an amazing husband but I am not going to question it whatsoever. 

If you read my last post, you know that I was talking about having a swimming pool installed in our backyard. So two nights ago I decided to go for it and I brought the idea up to my husband in a very subtle way to kind of feel him out. I couldn’t believe it, but he was on board right away. YAYYYY!!!

He told me that he’s actually been thinking about it over the past few months anyway and already had a few ideas of what he wanted to do. We both definitely agree that if we’re gonna do this, it has to be an in ground pool. Above ground pools can be nice to have and cool off on really hot days but for anyone over the age of 12, I think that’s about all they are good for. I want to be able to relax and sun bathe around the pool and enjoy it even if I don’t feel like getting in. Plus, who doesn’t love an in ground pool for barbecues and family parties? I think we might be the new designated family party house from here on out if we decide to do this.

I wonder how many times a day my husband mumbles this to himself…

Now it’s Time To Plan…

Having a pool installed obviously isn’t going to be an overnight job; no matter how bad I want it to be… I didn’t want to sound too excited or desperate when we had this talk so we kept the conversation pretty short but since we’ve had it I have not stopped thinking about it.

How big can we make this thing?

How deep can it go?

How long does it take to build a pool?

Where do you even begin???

I’ve always wanted a pool when I was growing up but what kid didn’t? Now that this could actually happen it’s almost overwhelming. I cannot WAIT to see our daughter’s reaction when we tell her the news. I would probably have fainted if my parents ever told me that news when I was her age. Oh my God I don’t know if I’m going to be able to hold in this excitement for much longer. I need to call some friends and let some of this out.

So I think I’m going to let my husband take care of most of the job when it comes to hiring people and exactly where we should put it so I don’t know why I’m spending so much time researching about it but I just can’t help it. I found this video on youtube last night and found it pretty interesting. So this is what they’re going to do to my lawn to make this work…

The thought of people tearing into and destroying my lawn is giving me a little bit of anxiety because I’ve gone through so much work to keep it healthy and beautiful, but I think I can live with it if I can walk right outside to my backyard and see a glistening pool in its place. Our neighbors are going to be so jealous…

I think I’m going to bring this up again tonight when my husband gets home and have a real conversation about it to see if he is as serious about this as I am. Stay tuned tomorrow to see how it went but for now… I CAN’T WAIT!!!!!

Need Some Opinions

I think I want a pool? I swear my husband is going to end up killing me.

I don’t know what it is, but I just don’t think I’ll ever be content with our home even though I am absolutely in love with it. My mind is just going over every little detail of our home all the time and looking for things to change. So recently I had this little epiphany that A pool should be our next big home improvement. I couldn’t settle for an above ground pool either. I really don’t like the way they look and I want to be able to lay out next to it and jump in and out whenever I want.

I haven’t brought this up to my husband yet and I am a little nervous to do so but I just feel that he has worked so hard to get to the point that he’s at why not spoil ourselves a little bit, right? I just have to find a way to tell him about this in a way that he will be on board with and not sound like a needy wife who always needs new things. I think it’s just in our nature to always want newer and better things. Even billionaires never seem to be content with what they have. People are always on the search for happiness and it’s so much harder to achieve than people think.

My Concern…

So if you found my about me article, you know that we have a little girl who is just starting kindergarten. Now you understand my concern.

I have been reading up on the matter and found a few ideas that would put my mind at ease with having a young kid around a pool and think I found what we would do. I was browsing the internet last night and found this company based in Orlando that has what I think would be perfect.


I have to admit, I really don’t think I like the way it looks but it can be removed later so I think it would work out perfectly. I don’t really like pools with huge or bulky fences around them in general and feels like it takes away from the beauty of it but I really don’t think we would have a choice if we decided to get one. I wouldn’t be able to sleep peacefully if I didn’t know we had some sort of protection for our little girl. If anything happened to her I wouldn’t be able to live with myself. Dear God just typing that out is kind of making me think twice about this whole thing now.

See what I mean? It is so hard for me to be content with anything, I swear. Maybe this is something I should bring up with my husband and really talk this one through before I start begging him for the pool.

What do you guys think? Do any of you have any experience with a pool or having some kind of temporary fence built in? How hard was it to take down and did it leave any crazy marks or anything when it was gone? Leave any comments or suggestions below if you wouldn’t mind helping a gal out.

Make Your Home Worth It

As you may have figured out by now, I love home improvements and am always pondering ways to make my home look more presentable and just all around better. Last night I was browsing one of my favorite websites of one of my favorite TV channels and found this article that gave a list of the top 10 ways to make your house worth more  http://www.hgtv.com/design/real-estate/10-ways-to-make-your-home-worth-more. I thought it was pretty well written and wanted to throw in my two cents on their little list.

Lets Ask HGTV… My Favorite

#10 Refurbishing the Basement… Now if you read my first my first blog post, you know that a finished basement is an absolute necessity for me and my home. It was one thing that I just couldn’t budge on when buying our home. There is just something about an unfinished basement that creeps me out. I think I would have put this a little bit closer to number 1 on the list but they are the professionals and not me, right?

#9 Building a Deck… I really do love decks and couldn’t agree more with this pick. Is there anything better than having a barbecue with friends and family on a summer day out on a deck? If our back patio didn’t work so perfectly for us, I think I would have to demand one from my husband.

#8 Bathroom Remodeling… The advice here is to basically make your bathroom bigger by finding extra space to open up and not having to do a full remodel or addition. I really try to keep our bathroom free of clutter and you wouldn’t believe how much bigger it makes it look.

#7 Painting… I have mixed feelings about this one. While I agree that a fresh coat of pain can make a wall look years younger, I don’t think it’s a good idea to just start painting colors everywhere to try and make it look unique or modern. I kind of like the simple look when it comes to paint on your homes walls.

#6 Attic… I understand what they are saying when they say renovations to an attic can really improve a homes value, but I don’t really imagine that it could increase the value but a noticeable amount. What else is an attic used for other than random clutter that you don’t know what else to do with? I kind of like having one part of the house that I genuinely could care less of how it looks and what’s in it.

#5 Add More Floors… I don’t think this one needs much elaboration. Adding additional stories is obviously going to increase the value to any home. Who wouldn’t want more floors to their house if they can afford it?

#4 Keep Rooms Flexible… I like the idea of this one. They basically said that you shouldn’t customize a room so much that it can only be used for that purpose. People need options when purchasing a home and those with rooms that can be used for different things will definitely make people want it more.

#3 Kitchen… I think this one is for us ladies. Who doesn’t want the most up to date appliances and modern sleek look? I love our kitchen and keeping yours updated is going to make the women happy.

#2 Minor Bathroom Changes… This was basically saying to keep everything updated and matching in your bathroom. If you have a sink or if your tile is out of date and just distracting to the rest of your bathroom, change them up! If there’s only one part of a room that doesn’t fit, that’s what’s going to stand out!

Drum roll please…….

#1 Siding… I can’t deny that I was a little let down with the number one answer but I agree with the choice. Ugly siding can be an absolute deal breaker for anyone looking to buy a new home and I could imagine it would be one of the more expensive improvements.

I don’t think I would have put these in the same order as HGTV, but I agree with the whole list and think these should be in the back of everyone’s mind when thinking about home improvements.

Neighbors With No Common Sense or Consideration

What is WRONG with People???

Is there anyone out there that has a neighbor with zero common sense in fashion or any type of decorative taste? We do and it drives me crazy. I think I am being selfish when I talk about their house but it is just plain ugly and I don’t think anyone could deny it. I don’t want to post a picture of their house online or anything for obvious reasons but to give you a little bit of an idea of what I have to look at every day from my kitchen window, take a look at this…

This is actually really close to what the house actually looks like, except instead of the green on top it’s more of a grayish with a tiny hint of green. Who could ever live in a house like this???

What’s worse is that the people who moved in actually changed the original colors of it and made it this horrific gold and gray. The color before matched the other houses in our neighborhood perfectly and fit right in. It looked like the first picture of the siding from this company in Grand Rapids. I guess when you think about it, our neighborhood is kind of like the one that is in the show Weeds where the intro song talks about how all the little boxes look just the same and everyone is similar. I know that show was making fun of neighborhoods like this and was being ironic, but I like that look and feeling and do not appreciate people who are trying to stand out in such an ugly way. I just don’t get it.

I know I’m not the only one that thinks it’s disgusting either. I’ve talked to two other neighbors that have the same opinion of the awful house as me. And I might add, I wasn’t even the one who brought it up. It’s totally up to the home owners house obviously what color they want to paint their house, I get it. But to be fair, you aren’t looking at the outside for the majority of your time. Us, your neighbors are giving the pleasure of having such a great view of a horrifically decorated house.

Who Does This???

I have never met the neighbors that live in the ugly house and I am really curious as to what kind of people they are. I just think it is a little inconsiderate to paint your house such obnoxious colors and be the complete opposite of what every other house is doing. I’m serious, when the house was the color it used to be, it totally fit in and matched the other houses perfectly.

So I think I am a little bit neurotic when it comes to these types of things but I can’t help it, it’s who I am, and I am going to write about it. I have thought a lot about what would bring someone to go so far out of their way to stand out from other people. I get the whole “I don’t want to fit in and I am different” attitude when it comes to a lot of things, trust me. But when you force other people to be constantly staring at your “originality” when it looks so hideous, I think you need to re evaluate yourself and sense of style. Maybe I’m just a psycho house wife and need to mind my own business….

No, I’m looking at the house right now and totally stand by everything I just wrote. So my neighbor just happens to stumble upon this by chance, please do the entire neighborhood a favor and change your house back to a reasonable color … PLEASE!!!!

Love it or List it

My Corny TV Shows

So I don’t know about any of you out there, but my biggest guilty pleasure is corny tv shows on HGTV. A favorite of mine being Love it or List it. For those of you who haven’t seen it, the premise of the show is that they find a couple who are looking to either redo their home, or sell it (hence the name of the show). So what they do is have an interior designer come in and redo parts of their home that they don’t like in hopes that the home owners will “love it.” They also get a real estate agent to help the couple find a home that they love and can afford and choose to “list it” (their home that is). Here’s a clip to give you guys a better idea of the show:

Isn’t the internet great?

Love it

So the reason I bring this show up is that I was watching it today and it really got me thinking about my house and what I would change if I had the choice. And don’t get me wrong; I absolutely am in LOVE with my home. My husband did a lot of work on it and he kind of spoiled me on a lot of parts in it (like my bathroom).

So this is all just fantasy day dreaming of mine. The two rooms in my home that I don’t think I will or would ever be able to part with is our master bathroom and our basement. My husband put in a new shower head that is absolutely AMAZINGGGGG. I don’t know if any of you have ever taken a shower with the top part aiming straight down from the ceiling and a number of jets coming from the wall in front of you, but if you haven’t then you have not lived people. I’m telling you, you will never be able to go back to a standard shower head again.

That isn’t a picture of my actual shower but that is what it looks like. I can’t get enough of it. I swear the first week we got it, my husband had to check on me to make sure I didn’t slip and knock myself out I would take such long showers.

Our basement is another room that I don’t think I could live without at this point. I don’t spend as much time in it as my husband does; but when we have parties or people over it is the center of everyone’s attention. Mostly the men though. My husband has his little man cave down there (yes, I was nice enough to let him have it) complete with a pool table and mini bar. I actually don’t know what it is about the basement that I love so much, I guess it just completes the house.

List it

Now the only part of our home that I still want to put some work in is our backyard. I am in love with our front yard and think our home looks beautiful from the street, especially with the flowers and gardening that I worked so hard on. But the back yard is just too simple and plain for me. I have a little garden area that I grow a couple different fruits in vegetables in but that’s it. The rest is just grass.

I don’t really think the show takes the yard into consideration so if I were to be put on the show, I think I would have to absolutely love it.

Am I Looking at Heaven?

The First Thing Anyone Sees; Your Yard

Alright that might be a little dramatic but look at this lawn and tell me it’s not a women’s dream. Well, mine anyway:


Is that not a gardener’s fantasy land? Well it is for me so I’m going to talk about it a little bit and allow myself to explain.

Now I think I’m putting too much thought into what you readers think about the picture above and I’m kind of falling out of love with it already. That is so typical of me. As soon as I see something that kind of catches my eye I immediately fall head over heels for it and nothing else could ever come close to competing. Then I end up buying or using whatever this latest infatuation of mine may be and then after finally having it and giving it my full attention; I lose interest. I don’t know why my husband has put up with me over the years, I really am a pain. But I can at least admit that so it makes it a little bit okay, right? Please ladies tell me I’m not the only one to do this.

Anyways back to the picture above. I bet I could find a yard that I like better in a matter of minutes online if I were to look now after thinking too much, but I’m not going to go through this again. What I love about what this person did to their lawn is how they separate the clutter and color from the lawn and they don’t invade the space of each other; making both the lawn and the garden and flowers stand out. There is plenty of open space in the bright green lawn to set up anything you need, from grad parties to Sunday barbecues. I love how big it makes a lawn feel and look when you don’t have a lot of trees and bushes taking up too much space. I really don’t have a preference whether or not a lawn has trees at all or not; but it has to work (if that makes any sense). I guess what I mean is I think a yard should either have a lot of trees and no garden, or a beautiful garden with minimal trees to block the view. It always amazes me when I go to someones house and only notice how beautiful their potted flowers and plants are when I walk up to the door because they have a row of huge trees directly in front of them. I guess some people just want something to look at for themselves and don’t care what people see or don’t see from the street. I respect that but wouldn’t be my first choice.

Do it Yourself or Pay Someone?

So being the dapper lady that I am, I do prefer and actually rather enjoy doing yard work. I do have friends that absolutely hate it though. My sister actually just had her whole backyard redone by this random tree company http://www.treeservicesdc.com/ and I can’t fathom why. No, she didn’t have some major damage from a fallen tree or anything like that. She just wanted her shrubs cleaned up and I just did not see any reason to waste money when she could have easily done it herself. But hey, to each their own I guess.

I don’t really know what it is that I enjoy so much about gardening when I really think about it. Let’s make a little list on why I should hate doing yard work; shall we?

  • Usually way too hot
  • Usually sweating uncontrollable
  • Tend to get filthy and covered in dirt
  • Might get eaten by a snake (okay maybe not eaten)
  • Feel tired and sore the rest of the day

Alright just like the picture from before, I’m starting to reconsider my love of gardening and I really don’t want to so lets talk about the positives. When I am done with the work I feel so accomplished and productive. I couldn’t imagine the disaster my lawn would be if I just stopped putting work into it. I won’t let that happen and I’ve already convinced myself to love gardening again.

Well it’s getting late and I want to cuddle with my husband so good night for now and stay tuned to see what part of a home I’m going to talk about next.


Favorite Aspects of A Home

So I consider myself a pretty trendy gal and I really notice a lot of aspects of a home and what would looks good. I think my favorite parts of a home are:

  1. Basement
  2. Yard
  3. Exterior
  4. Bathrooms
  5. Bedrooms

I don’t know what it is about those parts of a home but they are usually the first things I notice and I immediately start imagining how I would have them decorated if it was my home. I think a basement is one of the most important features of a home and I cannot stand when a basement isn’t finished. I just feel like I’m walking into a dungeon when I see them and feel dirty and uncomfortable. When my husband and I were searching for our home that was one thing that was an absolute deal breaker for me. I don’t like to consider myself high-maintenance (although my husband may beg to differ) but I refused to live in a house with an unfinished basement and kind of turned my husband around on it too. He was willing to do the job himself but I just wanted it done.

The yard is the first thing you see and gardening is one of my favorite things to do in the summer time. I like to make my house stand out from others but at the same time I think it’s important not to go too crazy and have a million different types of flowers and trees everywhere. Too much clutter is just as bad as not having anything at all. My ideal lawn would look something like this:

I think the color might be a little much but the plants are small enough to not distract you from the home. And I absolutely love purple.

After you notice the lawn the exterior of a home is the thing you see. I really love homes with a brick exterior like the picture above. Actually, the more I look at that picture the more I am loving that house. I might have to have a talk to my husband soon about mixing things up in our home.

My absolute favorite part of my house is my bedroom and one of the most important and intimate parts of a house. My husband spoiled me with a brand new king size tempurpedic bed a few years ago for my birthday and it makes me never want to leave the bed. He wanted to put a TV in the bedroom but I absolutely refused after getting the bed because I know him; with a bed this comfortable and a flat screen in front of him, he would never leave the room. I think I’ve heard that the healthiest relationships don’t have TVs in their room. I don’t know how much truth there is behind it but it makes sense to me. With less distractions in the room we can focus more on each other and it makes our relationship stronger. My favorite part of the day is getting in bed with him and just lying together.

Stay tuned to my blog to hear more about what I like in homes and more detail on each part of a home.